A year ago, I was head over heels for a guy. I loved him because I wanted to love him. And then after a year of living with him, it’s nothing short of torture. I can’t do this anymore. I feel so trapped and I want to get out but I don’t know what to do.
He told me I am his whole world and everything he does is for me, for us. I don’t know do you make your ‘world’ cry on their birthday? I’m starting to resent him and I don’t want to do that because he is not a bad person, he’s just not for me, and I knew that long ago but I always kept thinking that maybe I’ll love him for who he is. I can’t.
I don’t know how to get out. He’s the only guy I’ve ever been with and it’s so hard to even imagine what it would be like to not be with him. But I want out, I’m sure about it. I’m not even attracted to him anymore and practically hate having sex with him. I used to feel so overwhelmed by love when I used to look at him, now I’m just feel impatient and bored.
I know I’m wrong to not just tell him and end it, but when someone makes you responsible for every decision they take and everything they feel, it isn’t easy. I know I’ll handle myself, I’m worried about him.
Speaking as someone who has been in that same particular situation, go. Get out. Don’t think about it because it will only prolong both your misery and his incoming pain. You’re not doing anyone any favors by sparing his feelings. You are not his world, he is whole and complete all by himself. He was complete before you and be shall be after you. Please get out. I did and immediately you feel relief and less guilt for stringing this person along. He deserves to be loved and you do too. Wishing you the best.