I’ve been married for 2 years to an amazing person who i adore and wouldn’t ever want to be without. I started a job 9 months ago – i started up a friendship with a colleague that suddenly turned into flirting and before i knew it we had kissed. it escalated and we decided to stop it before it went any further. he has had a baby with the girl he is due to marry but since then we have kissed again and more on five occassions – we have talked about our feelings and said that we know its wrong and we should stop – we have tried to stop five times and always end up in the same spot – im terrified that it will take us being found out before i realise that what i’m doing is insane. but the thing is, i’m not sure if i love him now and im really scared. i think about him all the time and i cant help but think that my husband must have picked up on it.
i dont want to hurt anyone – i dont necessarily want to leave my husband but i just cant seem to give this up.
I told this guy at work how i feel about him and he said that we should stop because our feelings are getting out of hand – a week later we slept together.
if anyone has anything they can say to help then please do because i’m completely stuck and feel so vulnerable.